Love has many languages. By this, we mean that there are different ways that people express love and recognize it. Many times, the way that a person expresses love is not the same way that their partner wants to hear it. Imagine, if you will, two people who are speaking different languages to one another – say, Chinese and Swahili. Even though one of them might be saying ‘I love you’ in her language, the other person simply has no clue that this is a message of love. They are not communicating in the same wavelength.
Many times, a person feels unloved by his or her spouse because the expected language to hear that love never materializes. Yet, if the spouse were asked about his or her feelings, it would become clear that true love does actually exist. It’s just a matter of not communicating the feeling
of love properly to the other party. For example, some people express their love by wanting to spend quality time with their beloved.
This is generally more common amongst women. If a wife does not get to spend quality time with her husband, she might feel unloved, even if he is showing his love to her in other ways (by spending his money on her, for example). On the other hand, other people express love by physical
acts, such as kissing and sexual activity. This is more common amongst men. When a man regularly approaches his wife, he is showing that he loves her. Yet, the wife is not ‘hearing’ this love because in her vocabulary, love must be expressed in a different language – that of time. Unless
and until she sees this aspect, she will find it difficult to understand that her husband loves her.
Another language of love is helping the one whom you love. A wife might show her love for her husband by taking care of his daily needs and household chores. But it is possible that the husband does not hear this love, because he is not tuned into this language! Rather, he might be
expecting it in different ways. Therefore, all of the acts of devotion and dedication that the wife shows to her husband are simply ‘tuned out’, like a foreign language, because that is not what he wants to hear to confirm his wife’s love for him.
By understanding the different ways that people show love, each spouse can better appreciate the languages of love that his or her spouse speaks. Many people unknowingly speak more than one language of love – however, until the other partner learns to listen to and recognize that language, all of these beautiful expressions of love will be lost and evaporate into thin air.
Extracted from: Likeagarment Ebook by Dr. Yasir Qadhi.
The Religion of Islam دين الإسلام
Convey from me, even if it is a verse. Prophet Muhammad(peace be upon him).
Tuesday, 10 January 2017
THE LANGUAGES OF LOVE COUPLES SHOULD UNDERSTAND
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OUR DAWAH ORIENTATION IS LOST
Written by: Abideen Muhammed Ayomide
The present callers don’t only break the pledge between him and His lord but also ravage the effort of those before him. Our fore runners donated their blood to grow the “seed of Islam” but become herculean to the present callers to wet the seed with ordinary water.
My declaration is: the labor of our heroes past is dampened. Where lies the Dawah orientation in this snooty generation?
The issue is not open to debate but instead of fixing the problem; our scholar decides to fix the blame on one another. We see our brethren fighting over trivial issues. Issues that causes division among the Muslim community.
It is very pathetic and disgusting to see ourselves in this kind of situation. Who will inculcate the right sense of reasoning in this generation?
Gone were those days where brethren were fired with zeal of “Dawah-hood”. They stop doing it till their last breath without complaining as we do. They know what it takes to be an Islamic caller. The only thing that cut them short in Dawah track is “death”. Their sacrifice is immensurable!
Within us “Dawah orientation” is gone and gone forever but instead of fixing the problem, I found everyone pointing the finger of blame on one another and/or making Islam awkward for others and as a result, it makes people to dislike the word: sunnah since this irresponsible attitudes are portrayed by the so called Sunnist.
All verses and Hadith talking about preventing vices and promoting virtues is of no use to this 21st generation. We practice what I called “me and my Islam alone” as every female would love to practice “me and my husband alone” marriage.
Your sacrifice for Islam will be questioned irrespective of whom you are and your level of understanding. WHAT WILL YOU TELL HIM ON THE DAY OF RECKONING?
Ask yourself before you are asked: what have I contributed to the development of Islam? Am I solving the problems facing Islam and the entire Muslim community or adding to it? One thing I know that keeps me moving is that if you don’t work for Allah, you will surely work for Devil – No idle man in this noble game. It is now left for you to reason with your sense of reasoning? WHO WOULD YOU YIELD TO HIS CALL? Allah or Shaytan?
It is pertinent to be the voice of the ummah is this era where the ship of Dawah-Hood was thrown in deep ocean in 1948 (Spain Saga).
The lost of Dawah orientation is a deep problem, painful problem – problem that quick fix approaches, may not solve.
Moral decadency is the common business everybody ventures into in this our era so it needs a dedicated caller to reform our society. This is the era that Dawah is important, even vital. We need to work together to re-establish the Muslim system of government through Dawah; a must for every Muslim.
TEAM WORK:
As a youth, you need to be useful to Islam and know that God will ask you of two Islam. Individual Islam and group Islam. It is your personal Islam that will assist you in helping others to practice Islam. Don’t be stingy; help others to thread the right path.
Individualism Dawah will not lead to us to our desire goal so we need to come together. We need to form a strong bond. Team work is needed in Dawah work. It was team work that disappeared in our midst before Dawah itself becomes something of the past.
In the absence of team work; Dawah becomes a “lip service”. Everybody is doing Dawah with Sugar coated mouth since no one is there to cross check the achievement of Islam through Dawah.
Islam is fine as long as "my Islam" is okay is the unspoken message of our brethren.
We are waiting for reaping the fruit of Islam for so long when we have not sown; perhaps we have forgotten the need to sow! Where lies our Dawah orientation?
The exit of dawah zeal is a problem just as Shaytan is our open enemy!
Another problem also emerged within the circle. We have a quiet number of brothers working so hard to revive the lost “Dawah orientation” but mixed up with semi-zeal brethren. It is now cumbersome to fish out those that are working and those that are picturing.
What a waste to fail to unleash the principle of creative cooperation in developing solutions to problems that are better than either party’s original notion!
God does not hang the work of Islam on any society or personality shoulder. It is everybody’s duty.
I challenge everyone reading this to flash back. If you think deeply you will see that some people contributed to your success. God used them to guide you. They mentor you. The question is who do you want to mentor? A successful man without a successor is a success failure.
The destruction of team work:
As a muslim, we need not to be up and doing alone, we also need to be sagacious. We need to be mindful of the evil of the west. They understand the strength of team work so they won’t want us to be one.
It is when we personalized our Dawah that zeal of dawah traveled to an unimaginable destruction land.
We also divided into different components devoid of any substance. As a result of love for power and leadership? How to is the word; power intoxicate? Everybody want to bear the tittle "Amir" and the likes. We love to own our own society.
The question is are we ready to work for Islam or want to hold unto power alone?
EMOTIONAL DAWAH:
I will not want us to venture into this Dawah without proper planning. We should not let our emotion to drive us into action without preparation. Reviving the lost Heritage requires a proper planning. Islam needs you and your intelligence.
GHOST WORKERS:
It is of no use to have ghost workers in the midst of brethren striving to revive the lost heritage. Ghost workers are those working against Islam in disguise of dawah. The west succeeded in playing soccer with their mentality and those morally, spiritually decline people. They are on dawah track yet the keep illegal relationship; tell lies, etc. how would Allah reward a hypocrite?
They have hidden agenda. They are an opportunist. They always long for world gain of dawah-hood.
My brother let us all re-think and see the need to come together and work for the betterment of Islam.
Oh Allah! Let those that see wrong thing in team work understand what we are doing.
Oh Allah! Help us to lift your religion –Islam!
Oh Allah! Unite the entire Muslim.
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